I couldn't understand why I struggled so much through the tantrums. Why homework became a battle of wills. The threat of a lego invasion is moving me to a place of despair and stress. The garden, currently a muddy mess, had become a place I no longer relished while watching them hang upside down on… Continue reading Embracing this Season of Motherhood
I'm definitely not a natural. My mothering instincts seem to have got lost and underdeveloped. I do, at times, find parenting hard and sometimes an uphill battle. When my first was born, I was only 16. I had little in the way of knowledge about myself, although the 16-year-old me would probably disagree. I hadn't… Continue reading Parenting with Grace
Minimalist wardrobe ✔ Minimalist kitchen ✔ Minimalist living room ✔ Kids minimalist wardrobe ✔ But I still have too much stuff! Last weekend we had another trip to the tip and to the charity shop. The car was jam-packed full on both trips of stuff we no longer wanted/needed or had broken. Admittedly, a lot… Continue reading Minimalist Home- Decluttering
Joy and perfectionism. They are two different entities. Opposites. A twisted vine of lies, shame and sadness. Perfectionism is defined as unachievable unexpections and the inability to be happy unless these high expectations are reached. Perfectionism destroys our happiness. It ravages self-esteem. Encourages bitterness and resentment. It steals our joy. Perfection is unattainable. Growth is… Continue reading Joy and Perfectionism
Joy is not elusive. Irrespective of mental illnesses, Joy is still always present.But how can joy be present, when your illness/disorder is crippling any sense of joy, hope or purpose? When the emptiness feels overwhelming, all-encompassing and eternal? The struggle comes when your mental health is creating a lifestyle which is opposite to a life… Continue reading Mental Illness and Happiness
On the whole, we do not distinguish between joy and happiness and think that they are the same thing. However positive psychologists (yes that is a thing!) have found that there is a distinct difference between joy and happiness, and this difference may be a turning point in a quest for joy and happiness. Happiness… Continue reading Joy vs Happiness – Are we Chasing the Wrong Thing?
Expectations. Simplify them. Lower them. Then lower them some more. So often we get caught up in our expectations towards the one whom we love. We have this dream of a spouse who knows us completely, who can mind read, who is perfect and one who doesn't really exist! This is something I have really… Continue reading How Simplifying Relationships Results in Happier Relationships