Joy and perfectionism. They are two different entities. Opposites. A twisted vine of lies, shame and sadness. Perfectionism is defined as unachievable unexpections and the inability to be happy unless these high expectations are reached. Perfectionism destroys our happiness. It ravages self-esteem. Encourages bitterness and resentment. It steals our joy. Perfection is unattainable. Growth is… Continue reading Joy and Perfectionism
Joy is not elusive. Irrespective of mental illnesses, Joy is still always present.But how can joy be present, when your illness/disorder is crippling any sense of joy, hope or purpose? When the emptiness feels overwhelming, all-encompassing and eternal? The struggle comes when your mental health is creating a lifestyle which is opposite to a life… Continue reading Mental Illness and Happiness
On the whole, we do not distinguish between joy and happiness and think that they are the same thing. However positive psychologists (yes that is a thing!) have found that there is a distinct difference between joy and happiness, and this difference may be a turning point in a quest for joy and happiness. Happiness… Continue reading Joy vs Happiness – Are we Chasing the Wrong Thing?
Expectations. Simplify them. Lower them. Then lower them some more. So often we get caught up in our expectations towards the one whom we love. We have this dream of a spouse who knows us completely, who can mind read, who is perfect and one who doesn't really exist! This is something I have really… Continue reading How Simplifying Relationships Results in Happier Relationships
Joy. Happiness. Contentment. January is going to be full of these purposeful moments which grow love, joy, happiness and contentment. Throughout January i will be sharing more of what we are doing to increase joy in our lives through simplicity. Including our ”Happiness Project, ” what the difference between joy and happiness is (positive psychology… Continue reading January- The Happy Month!
”Be present”That was my word for 2018. Despite the ups and downs which 2018 has brought, I feel like it has grounded me significantly in what I did and what how I responded. Being mindful of being present has meant I have spent much more time with the boys and win Mr M, and have… Continue reading 2018/19 Reflection