Joy and perfectionism. They are two different entities. Opposites. A twisted vine of lies, shame and sadness. Perfectionism is defined as unachievable unexpections and the inability to be happy unless these high expectations are reached. Perfectionism destroys our happiness. It ravages self-esteem. Encourages bitterness and resentment. It steals our joy. Perfection is unattainable. Growth is… Continue reading Joy and Perfectionism
Joy is not elusive. Irrespective of mental illnesses, Joy is still always present.But how can joy be present, when your illness/disorder is crippling any sense of joy, hope or purpose? When the emptiness feels overwhelming, all-encompassing and eternal? The struggle comes when your mental health is creating a lifestyle which is opposite to a life… Continue reading Mental Illness and Happiness
Happiness in parenthood has come from an amalgamation of people who have brought intense joy to my life. Who have ridden out the sleepless nights, the depression and mental health problems, the sick child and the accident-prone child who doesn't bounce! My joy in parenthood has come from these people. The people who bring the… Continue reading An Open Letter of Gratitude to Those Who Have Brought Joy to My Motherhood
On the whole, we do not distinguish between joy and happiness and think that they are the same thing. However positive psychologists (yes that is a thing!) have found that there is a distinct difference between joy and happiness, and this difference may be a turning point in a quest for joy and happiness. Happiness… Continue reading Joy vs Happiness – Are we Chasing the Wrong Thing?
Expectations. Simplify them. Lower them. Then lower them some more. So often we get caught up in our expectations towards the one whom we love. We have this dream of a spouse who knows us completely, who can mind read, who is perfect and one who doesn't really exist! This is something I have really… Continue reading How Simplifying Relationships Results in Happier Relationships
Joy. Happiness. Contentment. January is going to be full of these purposeful moments which grow love, joy, happiness and contentment. Throughout January i will be sharing more of what we are doing to increase joy in our lives through simplicity. Including our ”Happiness Project, ” what the difference between joy and happiness is (positive psychology… Continue reading January- The Happy Month!
”Be present”That was my word for 2018. Despite the ups and downs which 2018 has brought, I feel like it has grounded me significantly in what I did and what how I responded. Being mindful of being present has meant I have spent much more time with the boys and win Mr M, and have… Continue reading 2018/19 Reflection
You want to be the perfect parent? You want to be the perfect employee? Perfect daughter/son in law? You have these expectations which have been set before you enter into a specific season of life or before a particular job etc. So often we are taught to reach for high expectations, they can become self-fulfilling… Continue reading Christmas Expectations
The addiction to busy is something I constantly have to battle. The pull of the buzz of completing something, of assisting, of seeing every person and accepting every party invite. To do all the jobs and to be seen as the competent and together. The woman who can do it all! Did you notice? All… Continue reading Maintaining Slow
Do you always respond in the same way to situations? Are you always drawn to certain things or drawn to certain people? It may be down to the values you hold. Our values inform our thoughts, our words and our actions. Whenever we make a decision our values are always integrated to that choice. Yet,… Continue reading The Importance of Values